Queen of Swords Spell
Born from the City of Steel,
I give you the truth; I do not conceal.
I've learned from the cold
what doesn't work: the old.
The new, I reveal.
I protect you. At all costs.
Forget what doesn't serve me
and forgive my loss.
I keep you safe from harm's way
even if there's hell to pay.
High above the city, quiet,
I watch and wait for news, turmoil, even a riot.
I make a harbor out of my throne.
Even after you've flown and grown,
I stand strong for you, steel and bone.
Delicate and new, I hold you dear
Talk quietly, defend fiercely,
and if you want to, hold you near.
I fly the fastest on earth
to fetch you fuel and mirth.
I rise above the highest tower
to give you what is your body's power.
I don't stifle you as you get older.
I grow warmer through the years, not colder.
All through your ages, I am here.
If you need advice, my head is clear.
If you need support, I will revere.
But, I'm not perfect!
This heart's been bruised badly.
It's been bloodied and used, sadly.
It's been mangled, tangled, and shattered.
Then wrangled and strangled.
Picked up, glued up,
but still a little battered...
No matter how dressed up,
I'm still a little messed up....
And my pieces are foreverly scattered.
But, I keep my trauma from being drama.
I model what I wish I would have been given:
peace with conflicts, forget what's been forgiven,
unconditional love, deep and unending,
not stubborn, but bending.
If I get a little cold
or yell, ignore, or scold,
Don't worry, I'll fix it. I am bold.
I apologize, move forward, try harder,
because I'm another mother.
Not the one that kept me under.
I'm one that's being discovered.
I use kind voices, kind actions, kind words, all driven
with intention to help, not hinder what's hidden.
l bellow your fires if that's your desire
and bucket with water your troubles, dire.
But I let you fuck up,
make your mistakes as you must...
I trust.....I trust.....
But, I'll not harm; I'll not squander
the love you've given.
I hold it tightly and honor its position.
I won't hold you in a prison.
The cycle of smothering mothering is over.
You're not my life's do-over.
You're not my encore.
Fly, little one, up high, high, away if you must,
all the way across oceans, away from my bust.
Or, stay here if you wish.
Your independence, I'll not squish.
Whatever you decide,
whatever you muse,
I know our lives
are separate, but close, not fused.
This, I'll not confuse.
I won't get it twisted.
On this I insist.
You live your life.
I live mine.
Our paths will constantly intertwine
if that's our design.
My love for you will endure
for sure
and strengthen with time.
I make a harbor out of my throne.
Even after you’ve flown and grown,
I stand strong for you, steel and bone.
LIGHT: RESPECTFUL BOUNDARIES, EMOTIONAL REGULATION, HEALTHY SELF-CARE, CONFIDENCE
DARK: COLD, TRAUMA MAMA, CONTROLLING, RESENTFUL
The Queen of Swords is the next Court card. She’s cool, calm, and very emotionally balanced. This is usually a mature woman with a shadowed past who uses that to understand and empathize with others. If you see her in a reading, it could mean that you need to set boundaries or regulate your own emotions a little more. If you’re feeling hesitant about something it could also mean it’s time to go after what you want with boldness and confidence.
Astrological Affiliation(s): The Air Signs of Gemini, Libra, and Aquarius
You’re the icy Queen of Swords, standing on top of the Gulf Tower, sending out warnings of incoming threats. You’re the Peregrine Falcon, the fastest bird on earth, and you’re here to protect all of your worth. You’re surrounded by swords…but have you placed them there as your own protective boundary or are you entrapped? It all depends on the perspective. You have yourself together with your high-end cloak, your secure position, and your braids all wrapped up around you like a knitted scarf. You keep a watchful eye around others and are keen and very critical when you need to be, but that can come across negatively if you’re glaring instead of observing. You take comfort in your story. It brings you glory. It allows you to help others. It gives you the strength to extend validation of others’ emotions and feelings. You are composed and have a solidity to you that can make others feel instantly safe. However, sometimes you’re too intense and that can make others feel weird. If you establish too many boundaries, no matter how kind, loving, and honest, it is still a line that you don’t want crossed, right? Some people might think you’re building walls up all around you. Some people consider boundary-stating the same as starting a conflict because they take it personally. You are more mature than that. You know that setting these patterns of acceptable and unacceptable behaviors is the strongest form of self-preservation and self-care. You are making sure you take care of yourself so that you can care deeply for others. Just don’t forget to care for others, actually. Don’t get so lost in your head that you become the person you’re trying so hard to keep your kids away from. Break those cycles but don’t create new, negative ones. Unlearn those traditions of terror and give unto others more of your true love.
Eight’s Insight:
Dysfunctional Family Role: The Martyr, The Narcissist, Helicopter Mom, The Perfectionist Mother
We know how Queen of Swords behaves in a healthy and whole family, but what happens in one that’s unsafe?
You try to protect yourself and your babies even in ways that might not serve everyone’s best interests. You might act The Martyr, complaining away about all you’ve given up for everyone. Poor you, poor you. You’ve done everything for everyone else even though they didn’t ask you for that; now, you’re resentful and a bit angry because you feel worthless. You might find it difficult to tell others no and to set boundaries which makes for unhappiness and many internal and external conflicts. Or, you could be The Narcissistic Mother or The Perfectionist Mother who only views your children as extensions of yourself and if they don’t measure up, you take it as a barometer of your own success…and your children must be perfect or it’ll “make you look bad” or you’ll withhold love, even subconsciously. Or, as a Helicopter Mom you hover around, making sure your kids are safe; but in this overzealous watching, it hinders their growth and creates intense fear and anger in them and in you. If you don’t allow your kids to make mistakes how will they fail? If they don’t fail, how will they learn to succeed? If they succeed, will they still need you? And, who even are you without them? You’ve got to find healthy self-care rituals and your own passion projects in order to find yourself, so that once that nest is vacant, you’re still fulfilled. You don’t want to be sad and forlorn, thinking of all that’s gone, holding the empty shell of an egg.